At the age of 17, it was very inappropriate for unwed Jewish girl to be pregnant. She became pregnant "postwar era", and was sent to the Lakeview Home for Unwed Jewish Mothers. Going to be turning 18 in 2 weeks, and would be married, her son was taken from her, to be put up for adoption in a boarding home, where they would hold a child there for up to 2 years, just studying him/her making sure to send the child to live in the correct home. She had no choice whatsoever in keeping the child, being forced to sign papers for him to be adopted, because she "had nothing to offer him," and that if she didn't sign them, he'd be in foster care.
Quite a few years down the road, he was married, and had been diagnosed with incurable thyroid cancer. So his wife bought him a DNA test, which led him to meet his birth parents. He had always thought he wasn't wanted by them, but it turns out that wasn't the case.
I believe there are good and bad sides to adoption. Good being if someone were to get pregnant, they didn't have to follow through with abortion. Also, people that aren't able to have kids can adopt. Bad being anyone can get pregnant, and just give it up for adoption. Not having to actually take full responsibility for what you did.
What are your opinions on adoption? Would you ever give a child up?
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/07/12/nyregion/a-son-given-up-for-adoption-is-found-after-half-a-century-and-then-lost-again.html?ref=topics&_r=0
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Good topic once again! I do think you could have included the actual names of the people in the story to make it more personal. Also, be sure to hyperlink your story. Click on the "Link" button.
Personally Adoptions aren't bad, but if you think about it there are a lot of kids waiting to be adopted and after they reach a certain age their likely hood to be adopted is lessened. I would never be able to give up a child, because I was the one who ended up pregnant, so it's my responsibility to take care of the child.
Exactly, I'm sure a lot of children up for adoption are children that were teen moms, and didn't want to be a mom yet. Like honestly, say I were to get pregnant. I guarantee my parents would make me keep the child whether I wanted to or not. Like, you did this, so now you get to deal with your mistake.
I have mixed feelings about adoption. I think it's really good that people can adopt kids, but I also think it's kind of sad that parents would give their child up to adoption. I think it's absolutely terrible that this mother was forced to give her child up. I don't think that giving a child up to adoption should ever be forced if the parents want to keep him/her. I would never give up a child. If I have children, I will keep them no matter what. I actually might want to adopt as well. Of course I'm not for sure right now.
I agree, especially with people not being able to having to have children. At least they can still have the experience of having a child. I also have mixed emotions about adoption too, I could personally never give a child up. I think it's terrible that anyone can go into an adoption agency, and say "Oh, I don't want this child, will you find a home for it?"
My opinions on adoption are not bad because i don't think it is wrong to give up a child. I would not give up a child because it would be my choice to keep him/her.
I do feel bad for her having to give up her child, but I'm guessing it was probably her fault. I would much rather a kid be given up for adoption rather than having them be aborted.
I think adoption is a great thing and it saves a kids life and gives them to someone who usually wants them. Of course there are some bad adoption parents, but a lot that you would see want a child and want to care for it. I would give up a child if I weren't in a position to take care of it and give it a good life.
I agree, it's a lot of work for someone to go through adoption. So I'd say people who are trying to adopt, and are able to, can't be too terrible of people. I'm sure there's a lot of background checks that go into it.
if i was her age and i had nothing it would cross my mind but i would want to make sure who the people who would adopt it are in a good and stable relationship and have a good home but i would not just want to be out of its life i would see if i could have visiting with them and have contact .
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